Let People Feel.

We

don't have 

to

be happy

to

feel good.

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One of the

worst

birthday messages

is,

'Stay

happy!'

And

it spans to a spectrum of

'Stay

beautiful!

Stay

cool!'

This contributes

to 

the life lesson

we should all

unlearn:

'It's important to

stay

   happy.'

For the sake

of your

total well-being,

Shake this

expectation

off your back

because it is

emotionally

unhealthy

and

logically

unnatural.

Need proof?

Recall a time

when you were

distressed

about something.

You

approached a friend

and

started to share 

about it.

Your confidante

then 

issues his/her 

piece of mind,

'Hey,

it's okay.

I think it's really

not a big deal.

I know

exactly how you feel.

Just don't 

be upset.

Move on,

cheer up!'

Case dismissed.

Now,

did you

feel 

good?

How about,

 better?

Did you

 magically

become happy again,

bouncing off

like nothing has happened?

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In situations like this,

it is

stressful

to

not allow 

yourself

to

feel

as you

feel.

When 

you need 

to

vomit,

vomit!

Swallowing

it down

is not going

do you any good.

Negative feelings

are

signs

that are 

steering your attention 

to

something

you need 

to

deal with

or 

 to something

haven't dealt with.

Feeling

is

dealing

when

you become 

aware

of

why 

you feel

what 

you feel.

Sometimes,

we need others

to help us

find the sources

of our

frustration, pain, anger or sadness.

We could

do that

for others 

too.

We could

ask

them

 constructive

questions

instead of

dishing out

our 

intelligent analysis

and

insist 

our friends to

'Cheer up.'

Permit

others to be

sad.

Let them be

human.

We will all

feel

better

after that.

The foundation of

well-being

is 

not

continuous happiness.

Robots

could be programmed

this way.

But 

we are not

machines.

We are just 

not

designed

that way.

It is okay

to be sad

when

you need to be.

Let it out.

Grieve

if you need to.

Bad weather

happens.

Don't withhold

the 

dark clouds.

They do 

get heavier

with time.

Release 

them.

Rain

your tears

to its last drop.

Then 

you might

catch the 

rainbow

at the first touch

of

sunshine.

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